Death is Sudden.
Death freezes us. Death puts us in a survival mode. We have to show up. We have to act. We have to attend to everyone who comes and shares this moment with us. All the procedures, logistics, ceremonies…the mourning phase.
We are still in shock, in denial. We have so many questions. Fear, guilt, shame, anger…we choose again the survival mode.
Then begins the grief. The mourning phase passed.
Everyone is back to their own daily routine. But what about our daily routine? How can we feel and deal with all this pain? Who will answer all these questions? Who will be there and how can we be there for each other? We have to stay strong. We have to move on. We have to turn the page and start a new chapter.
But where is the time we create to grieve? Where is the time we create to honor and listen to our bodies? Where is the time we create to breathe through our nervous system, over and over again to allow space to digest?
What is all this anger? Where was all this anger stored? What is all this guilt? Where was all this guilt stored? What is this overwhelming feeling? Who will answer all these questions?
When will life be normal again? But what is normal?
Death is sudden. Change is sudden. Life will never be the same because someone dear to us has left.
But the love stays. The memories stay. We only need to be gentle with ourselves. Learn to embrace ourselves in this new journey.
We can’t escape it. It’s reality. It is life. We need to walk through it. We need to show up but for who we truly are, remembering that it’s our birthright not to be ok, not to know it all, to be vulnerable and ask for support.
Give permission to yourself to grieve and surrender. Let God and Let Your Soul return you back home. Return to love. Return to Innocence. Love is an inner journey. Instead of focusing on reaching out only, give permission to yourself to reach within without expectations. Love yourself more. In times where you can’t see the light. Close your eyes and ignite the light within you. For this is the Divine lIght that will support you and return you back home.
Remember, you are not alone. You are forgiven. You are loved. You are enough. You can.